Andrea Myers’ ‘Choosing’

Out in Print

by Terri Schlichenmeyer    
Published: November 26, 2011 in Out in Print

From the moment you entered the world, squalling and wet, your parents had many expectations for you.

They expected you to grow up with morals, decency and kindness, strength and smarts. They hoped you’d be productive, happy, and live a long life. Dad might have dreamed you’d take over the family business. Mom might have wanted to teach you to ride a bike or a horse. They saw great promise in your future.

When author Andrea Myers was born, her parents undoubtedly had certain expectations for her, too. But, as you’ll see in her new book “The Choosing,” Myers had a few surprises for them.

Born in Queens and raised in Long Island, Andrea Myers loved to ask questions as a child. No answer was ever thorough enough and certain things were never discussed. Controversy was forbidden, topics of religion and sexuality among them.

Myers’ mother was a Sicilian Catholic who had been “insulted” by the Church and, as a result, Myers and her siblings were raised in their father’s Lutheran faith. Theirs was a unique and boisterous family: Myers devout grandmother lived upstairs and fiercely loved her granddaughter; Myers’ mother steadfastly stuck up for her children, no matter what; and Myers’ father had a dubious flair for fashion.

With her inquisitive mind, there was no question about college but when it came time for Myers to apply, she felt as if there was little choice. Her boyfriend said that if she chose a local college, they might as well “talk marriage.” But, what he didn’t know was that Myers had been dating girls, secretly, for several years.

She chose Brandeis University and left home. There, she found people who didn’t care that she was gay and a religion that seemed to answer a lot of endless questions, but that asked even more.

Seeking out a beloved campus rabbi, Myers told him that she wanted to convert to Judaism and become a rabbi. He didn’t follow tradition by turning her away three times; instead, he welcomed her, but warned her that it wouldn’t be easy. Undaunted, Myers embraced the challenge by moving to Jerusalem to study.

In so many ways, it was a decision that changed her life.

Filled with wisdom, humor, and the kind of contentment that only comes when one has found his or her right place in the world, “The Choosing” is one of those books that leaves you feeling oddly serene.

Author Andrea Myers writes about her life: her quirky family, memorable childhood experiences, her wife and children, mentors and friends, but she also takes opportunity to educate readers on Talmudic teachings, Jewish laws, and her own spirituality. There’s plenty of humor in this book — you can almost hear the twinkle in Myers’ words — but, at the same time, she imparts a sense of refreshment, subtly pointing out the miraculous in the everyday.

If you’re looking for inspiration, direction, or a few gentle laughs, you’ll love this surprisingly charming book. Grab “The Choosing” and you can expect a very good read. : :

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“The Choosing” by Andrea Myers
c. 2011, Rutgers University Press
$19.95 / $20.95 Canada, 187 pages