Comments on: Do children need a mother and a father? http://goqnotes.com/5252/do-children-need-a-mother-and-a-father/ Carolina LGBT arts, entertainment, news, views Thu, 17 May 2012 23:20:02 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.1 By: Jim Newcombehttp://goqnotes.com/5252/do-children-need-a-mother-and-a-father/comment-page-1/#comment-25674 Jim Newcombe Mon, 15 Mar 2010 10:52:51 +0000 http://goqnotes.com/?p=5252#comment-25674 This thorny debate is rife in England as well as America. I've just been reading an article in the Times by Carol Sarler which strikes me as embittered and venomous feminism and an especially spiteful dismissal both of men generally and of the needs and rights of children. It was called something like "Of Course Children Don't Need Fathers" and continued in similar stance and tone, plucking simplistic and inane reductions from social history and the animal kingdom. The piece to my ear reads merely as though she were the purveyor of a patronising sexism that undoubtedly she feels women have been subjected to since time immemorial, and she seems throughout to be referring to children as if they were eternally babies. For it to be claimed that a child lacking a father is an indifferent matter is a travesty of the familial ideal, for such a situation may invoke psychological turmoil and emotional numbness in the growing child and may well be exacerbated further from a mother's distorted version of events in attempts to mollify the child's curiosity and to cement solidarity in the mother and child bond. Once the identity determines itself in adolescence, if not before, the sensitive child will want to know the man who is part of his or her ineradicable nature. All I know for certain is that if I had never known my biological father my life would by comparison be impoverished. This thorny debate is rife in England as well as America. I’ve just been reading an article in the Times by Carol Sarler which strikes me as embittered and venomous feminism and an especially spiteful dismissal both of men generally and of the needs and rights of children. It was called something like “Of Course Children Don’t Need Fathers” and continued in similar stance and tone, plucking simplistic and inane reductions from social history and the animal kingdom. The piece to my ear reads merely as though she were the purveyor of a patronising sexism that undoubtedly she feels women have been subjected to since time immemorial, and she seems throughout to be referring to children as if they were eternally babies. For it to be claimed that a child lacking a father is an indifferent matter is a travesty of the familial ideal, for such a situation may invoke psychological turmoil and emotional numbness in the growing child and may well be exacerbated further from a mother’s distorted version of events in attempts to mollify the child’s curiosity and to cement solidarity in the mother and child bond. Once the identity determines itself in adolescence, if not before, the sensitive child will want to know the man who is part of his or her ineradicable nature. All I know for certain is that if I had never known my biological father my life would by comparison be impoverished.

]]> By: William Bodehttp://goqnotes.com/5252/do-children-need-a-mother-and-a-father/comment-page-1/#comment-25422 William Bode Wed, 27 Jan 2010 18:59:04 +0000 http://goqnotes.com/?p=5252#comment-25422 Interesting article, reaching seemingly logical conclusion that it is the quality of parent(s) rather than number or gender that determines childresn' success.It would have been helpful if the article had extended itself to include some specific data on childrens' success in education, career, income, etc. I'm sure the data is available in the article on which this one is bas4ed, but more data here would have helped. Interesting article, reaching seemingly logical conclusion that it is the quality of parent(s) rather than number or gender that determines childresn’ success.

It would have been helpful if the article had extended itself to include some specific data on childrens’ success in education, career, income, etc. I’m sure the data is available in the article on which this one is bas4ed, but more data here would have helped.

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