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isPermaLink="false">http://goqnotes.com/?p=14181</guid> <description><![CDATA[I am bewildered already by the blizzard of emails I receive daily about the upcoming vote (May 8, 2012) on a constitutional amendment in North Carolina that would further restrict and solidify what it means to be married in this state. I’ve been talking about the vote since both houses of the General Assembly voted upon its passage in September 2011.]]></description> <wfw:commentRss>http://goqnotes.com/14181/the-test-ahead/feed/</wfw:commentRss> <slash:comments>0</slash:comments> </item> <item><title>An Unexpected Homecoming</title><link>http://goqnotes.com/14006/an-unexpected-homecoming/</link> <comments>http://goqnotes.com/14006/an-unexpected-homecoming/#comments</comments> <pubDate>Sat, 24 Dec 2011 05:04:34 +0000</pubDate> <dc:creator>Brett Webb-Mitchell</dc:creator> <category><![CDATA[On Being a Gay Parent]]></category><guid
isPermaLink="false">http://goqnotes.com/?p=14006</guid> <description><![CDATA[College changes a person. I was an undergraduate and graduate student for 13 years and I’ve been a faculty member in colleges, universities and seminaries for over 17 years and I’m not sure what it is that brings about the change. ]]></description> <wfw:commentRss>http://goqnotes.com/14006/an-unexpected-homecoming/feed/</wfw:commentRss> <slash:comments>1</slash:comments> </item> <item><title>Kiddie&#8217;s lit</title><link>http://goqnotes.com/13455/kiddies-lit/</link> <comments>http://goqnotes.com/13455/kiddies-lit/#comments</comments> <pubDate>Sat, 26 Nov 2011 05:05:37 +0000</pubDate> <dc:creator>Brett Webb-Mitchell</dc:creator> <category><![CDATA[On Being a Gay Parent]]></category><guid
isPermaLink="false">http://goqnotes.com/?p=13455</guid> <description><![CDATA[Like generations of parents before us, my children’s mom and I read to our young children every night. It was part of our nighttime ritual: after dinner, we’d watch a little television before we would run into the bedroom of our children. Thankfully, they shared a bedroom at the time and were both into storytelling before it was time to say our evening prayers, followed by a kiss and a hug. ]]></description> <wfw:commentRss>http://goqnotes.com/13455/kiddies-lit/feed/</wfw:commentRss> <slash:comments>1</slash:comments> </item> <item><title>Being the parent of a gay parent</title><link>http://goqnotes.com/13055/being-the-parent-of-a-gay-parent/</link> <comments>http://goqnotes.com/13055/being-the-parent-of-a-gay-parent/#comments</comments> <pubDate>Sat, 29 Oct 2011 04:04:17 +0000</pubDate> <dc:creator>Brett Webb-Mitchell</dc:creator> <category><![CDATA[On Being a Gay Parent]]></category><guid
isPermaLink="false">http://goqnotes.com/?p=13055</guid> <description><![CDATA[While it would’ve been helpful at times to have an operating instruction manual in raising children, it simply did not come with the arrival of my children. I hunted for it in all kinds of places, but never did find it. And, while my parents often seemed to raise my brother and I effortlessly at times, I now know that most parents do what we do as parents with our children from the seat of our pants. In performing arts terms, parenting is all about the art of improvisation, day in and day out.]]></description> <wfw:commentRss>http://goqnotes.com/13055/being-the-parent-of-a-gay-parent/feed/</wfw:commentRss> <slash:comments>0</slash:comments> </item> <item><title>The mysterious, magical art of being a household</title><link>http://goqnotes.com/12692/the-mysterious-magical-art-of-being-a-household/</link> <comments>http://goqnotes.com/12692/the-mysterious-magical-art-of-being-a-household/#comments</comments> <pubDate>Sat, 01 Oct 2011 22:04:16 +0000</pubDate> <dc:creator>Brett Webb-Mitchell</dc:creator> <category><![CDATA[On Being a Gay Parent]]></category><guid
isPermaLink="false">http://goqnotes.com/?p=12692</guid> <description><![CDATA[My young adult children are slowly coming to understand that their childhood was unique and pretty-darn good. Granted, like most young children, they weren’t sure of what was going on or who had the most power among the three adults who were “parental units” (my daughter’s term).]]></description> <wfw:commentRss>http://goqnotes.com/12692/the-mysterious-magical-art-of-being-a-household/feed/</wfw:commentRss> <slash:comments>0</slash:comments> </item> <item><title>My children, your children</title><link>http://goqnotes.com/12190/my-children-your-children/</link> <comments>http://goqnotes.com/12190/my-children-your-children/#comments</comments> <pubDate>Sat, 03 Sep 2011 04:03:20 +0000</pubDate> <dc:creator>Brett Webb-Mitchell</dc:creator> <category><![CDATA[On Being a Gay Parent]]></category><guid
isPermaLink="false">http://goqnotes.com/?p=12190</guid> <description><![CDATA[Good news from my home: My 18-year-old son has begun his first year of college and loves it, finding his groove among a new group of friends, new course of activities and discovering the joys (and drawbacks) to living in a dorm.]]></description> <wfw:commentRss>http://goqnotes.com/12190/my-children-your-children/feed/</wfw:commentRss> <slash:comments>0</slash:comments> </item> <item><title>Moving</title><link>http://goqnotes.com/11916/moving/</link> <comments>http://goqnotes.com/11916/moving/#comments</comments> <pubDate>Sat, 06 Aug 2011 04:04:13 +0000</pubDate> <dc:creator>Brett Webb-Mitchell</dc:creator> <category><![CDATA[On Being a Gay Parent]]></category><guid
isPermaLink="false">http://goqnotes.com/?p=11916</guid> <description><![CDATA[One of my most complex memories — fond and sad — involved the simple act of moving a set of bunk beds into my son Parker’s bedroom in the house that I then lived in with his mom. My son was almost three years old and the bunk bed was to be put in his bedroom as he moved out of a crib that had grown too small to fit his growing body.]]></description> <wfw:commentRss>http://goqnotes.com/11916/moving/feed/</wfw:commentRss> <slash:comments>0</slash:comments> </item> <item><title>&#8216;I Do&#8217; and a whole lot more</title><link>http://goqnotes.com/11702/i-do-and-a-whole-lot-more/</link> <comments>http://goqnotes.com/11702/i-do-and-a-whole-lot-more/#comments</comments> <pubDate>Sat, 09 Jul 2011 04:04:38 +0000</pubDate> <dc:creator>Brett Webb-Mitchell</dc:creator> <category><![CDATA[On Being a Gay Parent]]></category><guid
isPermaLink="false">http://goqnotes.com/?p=11702</guid> <description><![CDATA[In many homes, one photograph proudly displayed is a wedding portrait. The wedding portrait can be of the homeowners, or often times, it is a photograph that captures the idyllic moment of the grown-up child of a parent or maybe the image of the parents’ parents renewing their wedding vows on a special anniversary.]]></description> <wfw:commentRss>http://goqnotes.com/11702/i-do-and-a-whole-lot-more/feed/</wfw:commentRss> <slash:comments>0</slash:comments> </item> <item><title>We&#8217;re related</title><link>http://goqnotes.com/11376/were-related/</link> <comments>http://goqnotes.com/11376/were-related/#comments</comments> <pubDate>Sun, 12 Jun 2011 00:04:47 +0000</pubDate> <dc:creator>Brett Webb-Mitchell</dc:creator> <category><![CDATA[On Being a Gay Parent]]></category><guid
isPermaLink="false">http://goqnotes.com/?p=11376</guid> <description><![CDATA[I have stood in line and watched as families with children, warring spouses and multi-generational families sail through passport control with little-to-no hassle. I, on the other hand, have always had to separate myself from my partner, each of us filling out our own, individual re-entry cards, marking “0” where you record if you are with any other family member, be it a spouse, child, or parent who is living under the same roof. That small, slightly insignificant act was a gestural reminder that my “family” is not comprehended, or treated like a family, American style. ]]></description> <wfw:commentRss>http://goqnotes.com/11376/were-related/feed/</wfw:commentRss> <slash:comments>0</slash:comments> </item> <item><title>He&#8217;s a gay parent</title><link>http://goqnotes.com/11015/hes-a-gay-parent/</link> <comments>http://goqnotes.com/11015/hes-a-gay-parent/#comments</comments> <pubDate>Sat, 14 May 2011 04:03:54 +0000</pubDate> <dc:creator>Brett Webb-Mitchell</dc:creator> <category><![CDATA[On Being a Gay Parent]]></category><guid
isPermaLink="false">http://goqnotes.com/?p=11015</guid> <description><![CDATA[My “boss” in the church was very direct with me, not holding anything back in telling me how she tells churches that are interested in me as their pastor: “The first thing I tell them is ‘He’s a gay parent.’” With that emotionally charged phrased — in which being openly gay is still considered breaking the law in the Presbyterian Church (USA) — I never hear back from a church. Miffed about this title, I asked my friend John (another minister who is a dad who happens to be divorced and is straight): “Does she call you a straight parent when introducing you to a group.” He chuckled softly and simply shook his head no.]]></description> <wfw:commentRss>http://goqnotes.com/11015/hes-a-gay-parent/feed/</wfw:commentRss> <slash:comments>0</slash:comments> </item> <item><title>Yoga daddy</title><link>http://goqnotes.com/10779/yoga-daddy/</link> <comments>http://goqnotes.com/10779/yoga-daddy/#comments</comments> <pubDate>Sat, 16 Apr 2011 04:04:07 +0000</pubDate> <dc:creator>Brett Webb-Mitchell</dc:creator> <category><![CDATA[On Being a Gay Parent]]></category><guid
isPermaLink="false">http://goqnotes.com/?p=10779</guid> <description><![CDATA[“And stretch one more time, finding your edge and pushing a little bit more, even if it is just an inch or a micro-inch,” Elijah says to his enthusiastic crowd of 25 aging yoga participants at our local YMCA. Downward dog, looking like my Labrador retrievers as they wander into our bedroom with their morning yawn and stretch, I put my head down, push back on my heels, hips up toward the sky, legs and hands outstretched.]]></description> <wfw:commentRss>http://goqnotes.com/10779/yoga-daddy/feed/</wfw:commentRss> <slash:comments>0</slash:comments> </item> <item><title>When I get older, Losing my hair…</title><link>http://goqnotes.com/10468/when-i-get-older-losing-my-hair%e2%80%a6/</link> <comments>http://goqnotes.com/10468/when-i-get-older-losing-my-hair%e2%80%a6/#comments</comments> <pubDate>Sat, 19 Mar 2011 05:04:44 +0000</pubDate> <dc:creator>Brett Webb-Mitchell</dc:creator> <category><![CDATA[On Being a Gay Parent]]></category><guid
isPermaLink="false">http://goqnotes.com/?p=10468</guid> <description><![CDATA[In 1967, the Beatles came out with their wonderful album (yes, I mean LP, vinyl disk), “Sgt. Pepper’s Lonely Heart Club Band.” I was 12 years old, on the edge of entering my teenage years, in Maplewood, N.J., and I saved my money for this album with an incredibly intricate, psychedelically colorful cover. While my parents tolerated (barely) parts of the album, the one song they enjoyed was the honky-tonk “When I’m 64!” In many ways, it was a musical bridge for my parents and me, in which our generations met each other.]]></description> <wfw:commentRss>http://goqnotes.com/10468/when-i-get-older-losing-my-hair%e2%80%a6/feed/</wfw:commentRss> <slash:comments>0</slash:comments> </item> <item><title>Where are we?</title><link>http://goqnotes.com/10070/where-are-we/</link> <comments>http://goqnotes.com/10070/where-are-we/#comments</comments> <pubDate>Sat, 19 Feb 2011 05:04:27 +0000</pubDate> <dc:creator>Brett Webb-Mitchell</dc:creator> <category><![CDATA[On Being a Gay Parent]]></category> <category><![CDATA[Raleigh]]></category><guid
isPermaLink="false">http://goqnotes.com/?p=10070</guid> <description><![CDATA[A few times a year those of us in the Raleigh/Durham/Chapel Hill-Carrboro area are told that we are the first, second or third for a host of being the “best at” and “worst at” for many categories. For example, Money magazine designated Raleigh as number one for business in 2006, while a group called “Tax Foundation” designated Raleigh as one of the “worst” places for business in 2009 (high taxes!). The headline surprising — well, shocking — me concerned the snapshot crowning the Triangle area as the third in the nation having same-sex couples heading households with children by the American Community Survey.]]></description> <wfw:commentRss>http://goqnotes.com/10070/where-are-we/feed/</wfw:commentRss> <slash:comments>0</slash:comments> </item> <item><title>All will be well</title><link>http://goqnotes.com/9789/all-will-be-well/</link> <comments>http://goqnotes.com/9789/all-will-be-well/#comments</comments> <pubDate>Sat, 22 Jan 2011 22:04:36 +0000</pubDate> <dc:creator>Brett Webb-Mitchell</dc:creator> <category><![CDATA[On Being a Gay Parent]]></category><guid
isPermaLink="false">http://goqnotes.com/?p=9789</guid> <description><![CDATA[Much of our attention in this society is about the “me” that is coming out to the world around the individual who is LGBTQ. The entire coming-out process is a journey that lasts an entire life. This is due, in large part, because in this society, where being “straight” is still the norm and being LGBTQ is considered the “abnorm,” we are called to be consistently, patiently and lovingly explaining to those around us and strangers: “Yep, I’m gay. It’s part of who I am. And, if you don’t mind my asking, you are…?”]]></description> <wfw:commentRss>http://goqnotes.com/9789/all-will-be-well/feed/</wfw:commentRss> <slash:comments>0</slash:comments> </item> <item><title>Parents matter</title><link>http://goqnotes.com/9514/parents-matter/</link> <comments>http://goqnotes.com/9514/parents-matter/#comments</comments> <pubDate>Sat, 25 Dec 2010 23:04:52 +0000</pubDate> <dc:creator>Brett Webb-Mitchell</dc:creator> <category><![CDATA[On Being a Gay Parent]]></category><guid
isPermaLink="false">http://goqnotes.com/?p=9514</guid> <description><![CDATA[It was a polite gathering: The Boy Scout leader and young man who is a Scout sat with Board members of the Chapel Hill-Carrboro YMCA (CHCYMCA), answering every question that we had for them about the place and presence of gay teenagers and gay Scout leaders in their Troop. Following up on my previous column about the Scouts selling popcorn at our YMCA, it was also revealed that the Scouts have been given a place to meet among one of our facilities, giving the perception that we support the Boy Scouts. The conflict is that we, at the CHCYMCA, practice full and total inclusion, while the Boy Scouts of America don’t. ]]></description> <wfw:commentRss>http://goqnotes.com/9514/parents-matter/feed/</wfw:commentRss> <slash:comments>3</slash:comments> </item> <item><title>College application letter</title><link>http://goqnotes.com/9327/college-application-letter/</link> <comments>http://goqnotes.com/9327/college-application-letter/#comments</comments> <pubDate>Sat, 27 Nov 2010 05:04:53 +0000</pubDate> <dc:creator>Brett Webb-Mitchell</dc:creator> <category><![CDATA[On Being a Gay Parent]]></category><guid
isPermaLink="false">http://goqnotes.com/?p=9327</guid> <description><![CDATA[It is the season for high school seniors to begin thinking seriously about applying for college or university admissions. Grades from years’ past, all the activities of students engaged in — from student government and plays, to sports and civic service credits — are being counted.]]></description> <wfw:commentRss>http://goqnotes.com/9327/college-application-letter/feed/</wfw:commentRss> <slash:comments>2</slash:comments> </item> <item><title>On being a second-class parent</title><link>http://goqnotes.com/9027/on-being-a-second-class-parent/</link> <comments>http://goqnotes.com/9027/on-being-a-second-class-parent/#comments</comments> <pubDate>Sun, 31 Oct 2010 03:06:30 +0000</pubDate> <dc:creator>Brett Webb-Mitchell</dc:creator> <category><![CDATA[On Being a Gay Parent]]></category><guid
isPermaLink="false">http://goqnotes.com/?p=9027</guid> <description><![CDATA[I was walking into my local YMCA when I noticed them: a table of Boy Scouts selling Trail’s End popcorn for a fundraising drive. While my local YMCA (Chapel Hill-Carrboro branch) welcomes LGBTQ individuals and families as full members — without any special proof of our family relationship — the same could not be said of the Boy Scouts of America. I was flummoxed in seeing the Boy Scouts in front of our YMCA branch.]]></description> <wfw:commentRss>http://goqnotes.com/9027/on-being-a-second-class-parent/feed/</wfw:commentRss> <slash:comments>2</slash:comments> </item> <item><title>50 + 1</title><link>http://goqnotes.com/8664/50-1-blue-cross-blue-shield-lgbt-benefits/</link> <comments>http://goqnotes.com/8664/50-1-blue-cross-blue-shield-lgbt-benefits/#comments</comments> <pubDate>Sat, 02 Oct 2010 04:04:41 +0000</pubDate> <dc:creator>Brett Webb-Mitchell</dc:creator> <category><![CDATA[On Being a Gay Parent]]></category> <category><![CDATA[Charlotte]]></category> <category><![CDATA[Politics]]></category> <category><![CDATA[Raleigh]]></category> <category><![CDATA[Triad]]></category><guid
isPermaLink="false">http://goqnotes.com/?p=8664</guid> <description><![CDATA[n order that our full-time LGBTQ employees have equal access to purchase the benefits plan that is available to our non-LGBTQ full-time employees and their spouses and children, the non-profit organization first needs 50 non-LGBTQ full-time employees! Both of the major health care providers of North Carolina —- United Health and Blue Cross Blue Shield (BCBS) of NC -— have this rule.]]></description> <wfw:commentRss>http://goqnotes.com/8664/50-1-blue-cross-blue-shield-lgbt-benefits/feed/</wfw:commentRss> <slash:comments>0</slash:comments> </item> <item><title>Alike and Different</title><link>http://goqnotes.com/8187/alike-and-different/</link> <comments>http://goqnotes.com/8187/alike-and-different/#comments</comments> <pubDate>Sat, 04 Sep 2010 04:03:18 +0000</pubDate> <dc:creator>Brett Webb-Mitchell</dc:creator> <category><![CDATA[On Being a Gay Parent]]></category><guid
isPermaLink="false">http://goqnotes.com/?p=8187</guid> <description><![CDATA[When I was a full-time music therapist, usually employed to work with children and young people with emotional, behavioral or intellectual disabilities, one of the games I would lead a group of children in was called “Alike and Different.” The group would chant “Alike and different, alike and different, we [...]]]></description> <wfw:commentRss>http://goqnotes.com/8187/alike-and-different/feed/</wfw:commentRss> <slash:comments>0</slash:comments> </item> <item><title>The adults are all right</title><link>http://goqnotes.com/7805/the-adults-are-all-right/</link> <comments>http://goqnotes.com/7805/the-adults-are-all-right/#comments</comments> <pubDate>Sat, 07 Aug 2010 04:04:53 +0000</pubDate> <dc:creator>Brett Webb-Mitchell</dc:creator> <category><![CDATA[On Being a Gay Parent]]></category><guid
isPermaLink="false">http://goqnotes.com/?p=7805</guid> <description><![CDATA[For those of us who are straight, lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, queer expressing or questioning parents of one or more children, we are well-acquainted with the fact that it takes at least two people to have a child. That about covers all of us. And, the recent release of Lisa [...]]]></description> <wfw:commentRss>http://goqnotes.com/7805/the-adults-are-all-right/feed/</wfw:commentRss> <slash:comments>0</slash:comments> </item> <item><title>The Insurance Game</title><link>http://goqnotes.com/7517/the-insurance-game/</link> <comments>http://goqnotes.com/7517/the-insurance-game/#comments</comments> <pubDate>Sat, 10 Jul 2010 21:03:11 +0000</pubDate> <dc:creator>Brett Webb-Mitchell</dc:creator> <category><![CDATA[On Being a Gay Parent]]></category><guid
isPermaLink="false">http://goqnotes.com/?p=7517</guid> <description><![CDATA[Here’s the situation: I have healthcare insurance, that includes dental, death, disability and part of my retirement plan, through my employer’s comprehensive. This program covers my two children and me. My partner has his health insurance program and retirement program through the state of North Carolina because he is an [...]]]></description> <wfw:commentRss>http://goqnotes.com/7517/the-insurance-game/feed/</wfw:commentRss> <slash:comments>0</slash:comments> </item> <item><title>Closets</title><link>http://goqnotes.com/7184/closets/</link> <comments>http://goqnotes.com/7184/closets/#comments</comments> <pubDate>Sat, 12 Jun 2010 18:04:52 +0000</pubDate> <dc:creator>Brett Webb-Mitchell</dc:creator> <category><![CDATA[On Being a Gay Parent]]></category><guid
isPermaLink="false">http://goqnotes.com/?p=7184</guid> <description><![CDATA[“I’m scared,” he typed. Sitting in a Carrboro coffee shop behind his laptop computer he stared intensely at what he wrote before sending it to me. “I’m still not out like you are.” This email came to me out of the blue as I sat in the coffee shop working [...]]]></description> <wfw:commentRss>http://goqnotes.com/7184/closets/feed/</wfw:commentRss> <slash:comments>0</slash:comments> </item> <item><title>Changing places</title><link>http://goqnotes.com/6757/changing-places/</link> <comments>http://goqnotes.com/6757/changing-places/#comments</comments> <pubDate>Sun, 16 May 2010 00:02:58 +0000</pubDate> <dc:creator>Brett Webb-Mitchell</dc:creator> <category><![CDATA[On Being a Gay Parent]]></category><guid
isPermaLink="false">http://goqnotes.com/?p=6757</guid> <description><![CDATA[“My step-mother was of the opinion that young women didn’t need an education per se. The job of a young woman was to be barefoot and pregnant,” said Calvin. This didn’t matter anymore after Calvin changed places in his family tree. From the box marked “young woman” in the family, [...]]]></description> <wfw:commentRss>http://goqnotes.com/6757/changing-places/feed/</wfw:commentRss> <slash:comments>0</slash:comments> </item> <item><title>Making sense of the census</title><link>http://goqnotes.com/6325/making-sense-of-the-census/</link> <comments>http://goqnotes.com/6325/making-sense-of-the-census/#comments</comments> <pubDate>Sat, 17 Apr 2010 19:01:52 +0000</pubDate> <dc:creator>Brett Webb-Mitchell</dc:creator> <category><![CDATA[On Being a Gay Parent]]></category><guid
isPermaLink="false">http://goqnotes.com/?p=6325</guid> <description><![CDATA[The U.S. federal government, along with state and local governments, have a way of reminding us that our families, headed by lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, or queer expressing/questioning parents or heads of households, are simply not part of the norm of our society. For example, when flying into the U.S. [...]]]></description> <wfw:commentRss>http://goqnotes.com/6325/making-sense-of-the-census/feed/</wfw:commentRss> <slash:comments>0</slash:comments> </item> <item><title>Markings</title><link>http://goqnotes.com/6073/markings/</link> <comments>http://goqnotes.com/6073/markings/#comments</comments> <pubDate>Fri, 19 Mar 2010 23:03:47 +0000</pubDate> <dc:creator>Brett Webb-Mitchell</dc:creator> <category><![CDATA[On Being a Gay Parent]]></category><guid
isPermaLink="false">http://goqnotes.com/?p=6073</guid> <description><![CDATA[When I taught at Duke Divinity School, one of my colleagues made this audacious, bold claim: When we baptized our children as infants, we were giving them the mark of Christ that would last throughout their lifetime. The theological point is this: While saved by God’s grace, the watery mark [...]]]></description> <wfw:commentRss>http://goqnotes.com/6073/markings/feed/</wfw:commentRss> <slash:comments>0</slash:comments> </item> <item><title>The next generation</title><link>http://goqnotes.com/5618/the-next-generation/</link> <comments>http://goqnotes.com/5618/the-next-generation/#comments</comments> <pubDate>Fri, 19 Feb 2010 22:04:06 +0000</pubDate> <dc:creator>Brett Webb-Mitchell</dc:creator> <category><![CDATA[On Being a Gay Parent]]></category><guid
isPermaLink="false">http://goqnotes.com/?p=5618</guid> <description><![CDATA[Those of us who are lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, queer expressing, questioning and straight friends, family members and allies, live in a time of great story making and story telling. February is Black History Month and it has me thinking of our history, looking forward to Gay History Month in [...]]]></description> <wfw:commentRss>http://goqnotes.com/5618/the-next-generation/feed/</wfw:commentRss> <slash:comments>0</slash:comments> </item> <item><title>The word is&#8230;</title><link>http://goqnotes.com/5138/the-word-is/</link> <comments>http://goqnotes.com/5138/the-word-is/#comments</comments> <pubDate>Sat, 23 Jan 2010 03:04:01 +0000</pubDate> <dc:creator>Brett Webb-Mitchell</dc:creator> <category><![CDATA[On Being a Gay Parent]]></category><guid
isPermaLink="false">http://goqnotes.com/?p=5138</guid> <description><![CDATA[When I was a child, one of the favorite game shows I watched with my grandmother on her color television in her room in our house was “Password.” It was a simple game show with lots of laughter and witty banter, sometimes with Betty White on as a contestant, with [...]]]></description> <wfw:commentRss>http://goqnotes.com/5138/the-word-is/feed/</wfw:commentRss> <slash:comments>0</slash:comments> </item> <item><title>No room in the inn</title><link>http://goqnotes.com/4685/no-room-in-the-inn/</link> <comments>http://goqnotes.com/4685/no-room-in-the-inn/#comments</comments> <pubDate>Sat, 26 Dec 2009 05:02:12 +0000</pubDate> <dc:creator>Brett Webb-Mitchell</dc:creator> <category><![CDATA[On Being a Gay Parent]]></category><guid
isPermaLink="false">http://www.q-notes.com/?p=4685</guid> <description><![CDATA[I am writing this “Holiday Season” column from a hospital in North Carolina, where my teenage son is recuperating after an emergency appendectomy. I was flying back from Oregon to North Carolina, with a stopover in Houston, when I received a text from him reading “Am in the ER at [...]]]></description> <wfw:commentRss>http://goqnotes.com/4685/no-room-in-the-inn/feed/</wfw:commentRss> <slash:comments>0</slash:comments> </item> <item><title>A call for outstretched arms</title><link>http://goqnotes.com/4571/a-call-to-outstretched-arms/</link> <comments>http://goqnotes.com/4571/a-call-to-outstretched-arms/#comments</comments> <pubDate>Sat, 12 Dec 2009 15:45:57 +0000</pubDate> <dc:creator>Brett Webb-Mitchell</dc:creator> <category><![CDATA[On Being a Gay Parent]]></category><guid
isPermaLink="false">http://www.q-notes.com/?p=4571</guid> <description><![CDATA[The divisive debate regarding whether or not there is going to be equal access to marriage in various states took a disappointing turn when the voters of Maine rejected an already established law allowing for equal access to marriage for both straight and gay people. As was the case of [...]]]></description> <wfw:commentRss>http://goqnotes.com/4571/a-call-to-outstretched-arms/feed/</wfw:commentRss> <slash:comments>1</slash:comments> </item> <item><title>The children are doing well</title><link>http://goqnotes.com/4066/the-children-are-doing-well/</link> <comments>http://goqnotes.com/4066/the-children-are-doing-well/#comments</comments> <pubDate>Sat, 31 Oct 2009 04:02:27 +0000</pubDate> <dc:creator>Brett Webb-Mitchell</dc:creator> <category><![CDATA[A&E / Life&Style]]></category> <category><![CDATA[On Being a Gay Parent]]></category><guid
isPermaLink="false">http://www.q-notes.com/?p=4066</guid> <description><![CDATA[One of my primary concerns when I began the process of separating from the person I was married to and moving out was the well-being of our two children. The same was true for their mom: we were both concerned on how they would not only adjust to our divorce, [...]]]></description> <wfw:commentRss>http://goqnotes.com/4066/the-children-are-doing-well/feed/</wfw:commentRss> <slash:comments>0</slash:comments> </item> <item><title>Photographs</title><link>http://goqnotes.com/3750/photographs/</link> <comments>http://goqnotes.com/3750/photographs/#comments</comments> <pubDate>Sat, 03 Oct 2009 16:01:15 +0000</pubDate> <dc:creator>Brett Webb-Mitchell</dc:creator> <category><![CDATA[A&E / Life&Style]]></category> <category><![CDATA[On Being a Gay Parent]]></category><guid
isPermaLink="false">http://www.q-notes.com/?p=3750</guid> <description><![CDATA[If the pithy phrase “A picture is worth ten thousand words” — or as Napolean once said “a good sketch is better than a long speech” — is true, then volumes have been spoken in recent years in capturing what a family looks like. This is especially true since the [...]]]></description> <wfw:commentRss>http://goqnotes.com/3750/photographs/feed/</wfw:commentRss> <slash:comments>0</slash:comments> </item> <item><title>Coming out…with a twist</title><link>http://goqnotes.com/3511/coming-out-with-a-twist/</link> <comments>http://goqnotes.com/3511/coming-out-with-a-twist/#comments</comments> <pubDate>Sat, 05 Sep 2009 04:02:57 +0000</pubDate> <dc:creator>Brett Webb-Mitchell</dc:creator> <category><![CDATA[A&E / Life&Style]]></category> <category><![CDATA[On Being a Gay Parent]]></category><guid
isPermaLink="false">http://www.q-notes.com/?p=3511</guid> <description><![CDATA[More than likely, those of us who self-identify as a person who is lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, questioning or queer expressing are people who have participated in what I guess can only be called a time-honored ritual or tradition of “coming out.” Every year at the North Carolina Gay and [...]]]></description> <wfw:commentRss>http://goqnotes.com/3511/coming-out-with-a-twist/feed/</wfw:commentRss> <slash:comments>0</slash:comments> </item> <item><title>It started in kindergarten</title><link>http://goqnotes.com/3366/it-started-in-kindergarten/</link> <comments>http://goqnotes.com/3366/it-started-in-kindergarten/#comments</comments> <pubDate>Sat, 22 Aug 2009 04:02:18 +0000</pubDate> <dc:creator>Brett Webb-Mitchell</dc:creator> <category><![CDATA[A&E / Life&Style]]></category> <category><![CDATA[On Being a Gay Parent]]></category><guid
isPermaLink="false">http://www.q-notes.com/?p=3366</guid> <description><![CDATA[In Robert Fulghum’s simply written, yet profound book, “All I Really Need to Know I Learned in Kindergarten,” we learn how our communities would be a better place if we, who are adults, would remember to practice the same rules as kindergarten children. Of course, Fulghum did not mean all [...]]]></description> <wfw:commentRss>http://goqnotes.com/3366/it-started-in-kindergarten/feed/</wfw:commentRss> <slash:comments>0</slash:comments> </item> <item><title>Family Reunions</title><link>http://goqnotes.com/3009/family-reunions/</link> <comments>http://goqnotes.com/3009/family-reunions/#comments</comments> <pubDate>Sat, 11 Jul 2009 04:01:49 +0000</pubDate> <dc:creator>Brett Webb-Mitchell</dc:creator> <category><![CDATA[A&E / Life&Style]]></category> <category><![CDATA[On Being a Gay Parent]]></category><guid
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