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To Trinity, I’m an attractive, fun, well-off gay man. I think I’m a catch, but I can’t seem to get a catch. What’s wrong with me? Catcher Without A Catch, Atlanta, GA To Catcher Without A Catch, The only two reasons you might have troubles are, you don’t try very [...]
A reader asks, “My new girlfriend has a four-year-old daughter that she conceived by sleeping with a man just to get pregnant. She has never told the father or the daughter about each other. I feel strongly that they both have a right to know. My girlfriend disagrees and never intends to tell either one of them. What do you think and should I tell him?”
A reader asks, “Why do gay people and straight people think about monogamy so differently?”
A reader asks, “I’m 36, fun, good-looking and very educated. I just can’t go to GLBT bars, chat rooms or any other ridiculous place GLBT people go to meet each other. So, how can I meet my match without dumping my self-respect?”
A reader needs some advice, asking, “I seem to be on an unlucky streak. I lost my job, my lover and now I’m being evicted. The only thing good in my life is my health and my cat. What do you do in times like these?”
A reader asks, “Very simply, I’m gay! There it is! I said it. Am I going to Hell!?”
A reader has a major family dilemma, and asks, “Recently, I moved in with my father and his new wife. But, she wants me to be quiet about being gay. She’s afraid she will lose custody of her grandchildren because a gay man is living in her house. I told her it won’t happen. It’s against the law. Unfortunately, I don’t have a job or the money to move. What should I do?”
A reader poses, “After dating the same woman for three years, I recently found out that she cheated on me. I love her and don’t want to lose her, but what about my integrity and my pride. She doesn’t know I know. What should I do?
A reader from Raleigh inquires: “I’ve been reading about your ‘liberal’ advise on extra marital affairs with men already in relationships! Don’t you think advocating extra marital affairs is despicable and mindless, especially for an internationally syndicated advise columnist?”
A four-eyed dilemma: A reader asks, “My best friend keeps pushing me to get rid of my glasses and get contacts. He says it will help my dating life and my sex life. But, what’s wrong with glasses?”
Talk about sibling rivalry! A reader asks, “I’ve been dating this guy off and on for almost a year, but then I met his brother. Now, I have been fooling around with his brother behind his back. Am I bad or is it his brother’s fault?”
A reader has a very difficult situation indeed, and asks, “My boyfriend moved into a house with four other gay men. Now, he hardly wants to be with me anymore. He also won’t talk about it. Help!”
A reader asks, “All this complaining and inside fighting between the gay men, lesbian and bisexual community over the “transgender” community makes gay rights so much less powerful! Don’t you agree?”
A fib-telling reader inquires for a solution: “This may sound juvenile, but I’m afraid to tell my girlfriend that I’m younger than I said I was. I’m afraid she’ll dump me. She always says, ‘I really like that you’re older than me.’ And, so on. What should I do?”
A reader asks, “After seven years with the same person, our relationship has become sexually stale. Some of our friends who are also couples say, ‘Try different and alternative sexual activities.’ Don’t you think sexual ‘alternatives’ are cop-outs?”
A reader tells Trinity: “I’m dating a smoker and I’m a nonsmoker. I’m trying to be accepting of it, but it’s really not easy. Help!” As always, Trinity is quick to help. Read her tips for dating a smoker.
A reader asks, “About a month ago, I came out to my wife, two kids and to my very straight job. My wife was great, but my job couldn’t handle it so I was fired. Did I do the right thing?”
A reader asks Trinity, “After three weeks of dating, my girlfriend wants me to finally “sleepover.” But, I’m afraid it will ruin everything. When is it a good time to finally sleepover?”
A reader asks, “I hate first dates. Why would anyone put themselves through such hell as a first date?”
Dear Trinity, It’s been five years and I love my boyfriend. However, he’s selfish and as time goes on, he gets less and less eager to compromise. I’m beginning to feel like a doormat. What can I do?
