Tell Trinity
A reader asks, “After seven years with the same person, our relationship has become sexually stale. Some of our friends who are also couples say, ‘Try different and alternative sexual activities.’ Don’t you think sexual ‘alternatives’ are cop-outs?”
A reader tells Trinity: “I’m dating a smoker and I’m a nonsmoker. I’m trying to be accepting of it, but it’s really not easy. Help!” As always, Trinity is quick to help. Read her tips for dating a smoker.
A reader asks, “About a month ago, I came out to my wife, two kids and to my very straight job. My wife was great, but my job couldn’t handle it so I was fired. Did I do the right thing?”
A reader asks Trinity, “After three weeks of dating, my girlfriend wants me to finally “sleepover.” But, I’m afraid it will ruin everything. When is it a good time to finally sleepover?”
A reader asks, “I hate first dates. Why would anyone put themselves through such hell as a first date?”
Dear Trinity, It’s been five years and I love my boyfriend. However, he’s selfish and as time goes on, he gets less and less eager to compromise. I’m beginning to feel like a doormat. What can I do?
A reader asks: “I met this guy at the bar and brought him home for some lovin’. Well, he turned into a sex pig, spitting, swearing, choking and more. I’m not vanilla, but when sex gets too dirty or painful it turns me off. How do you know if someone wants a ‘scene’ rather than just good sex?”
A reader asks: “As I reach middle age, my health, looks and sex appeal are dying out. Don’t you think suicide at middle age is better than letting old age kill me?”
Tired of being spurned by hook-ups, a reader asks Trinity, “What’s up with open relationships?”
A reader from Atlanta, Ga., asks, “I’m openly gay and seeing a closeted guy for a couple of weeks. He hasn’t even kissed me yet. Am I wasting my time?”
A reader asks, “I’m not becoming a priest, but I thought I’d try celibacy. Do you think it’s a good idea?”
A reader asks Trinity, “Do you really think natural foods or alternative medicines have any benefits? Isn’t all that just birdseed and seaweed?”
Everyone hears “Look at the bright side” at least once when facing a daunting situation, but a reader asks Trinity what could possibly be the “bright” of a gay bashing or AIDS.
A reader in Raleigh asks, “My ex was into the fetish scene and now two years later I am beginning to find it very interesting. Any advice for first timers?”
A reader asks Trinity, “What are circuit parties and would you recommend them?” And, as always, Trinity answers.
Dear Trinity: When I was 20 I fell in love so easily. Now I’m 40 and I have trouble letting myself fall in love. Why is it so hard at 40?
A reader asks Trinity, “Sometimes my lover just doesn’t get me. It’s so frustrating. I don’t mean to expect unreasonable things from her, but how can I get my needs met without losing my mind from having to ask for every little thing I need or want? Must I always ask?”
After a break-up, he wants to get back together. Should I or shouldn’t I. You ask. Trinity Tells.
A reader asks, “As an American living in Montreal, I’m finding gay men not nearly as friendly here as in the States. How do I get these self-absorbed gays to talk and/or eventually date me?”
A reader asks Trinity, “My lover constantly says, ‘Communication is everything. If you ‘want’ a relationship you have to ‘want’ to communicate!’ Really?’
