Everyone hears “Look at the bright side” at least once when facing a daunting situation, but a reader asks Trinity what could possibly be the “bright” of a gay bashing or AIDS.

A reader in Raleigh asks, “My ex was into the fetish scene and now two years later I am beginning to find it very interesting. Any advice for first timers?”

A reader asks Trinity, “What are circuit parties and would you recommend them?” And, as always, Trinity answers.

Dear Trinity: When I was 20 I fell in love so easily. Now I’m 40 and I have trouble letting myself fall in love. Why is it so hard at 40?

A reader asks Trinity, “Sometimes my lover just doesn’t get me. It’s so frustrating. I don’t mean to expect unreasonable things from her, but how can I get my needs met without losing my mind from having to ask for every little thing I need or want? Must I always ask?”

After a break-up, he wants to get back together. Should I or shouldn’t I. You ask. Trinity Tells.

A reader asks, “As an American living in Montreal, I’m finding gay men not nearly as friendly here as in the States. How do I get these self-absorbed gays to talk and/or eventually date me?”

A reader asks Trinity, “My lover constantly says, ‘Communication is everything. If you ‘want’ a relationship you have to ‘want’ to communicate!’ Really?’

A 22-year-old Charlottean asks how he can get more action out of his slightly older partner. He says, “…he’s 26 and when I want to get my freak on with him he’s not interested. I love him, but I have needs!”

A reader in Raleigh asks, “My four-year relationship needs a sex overhaul or we won’t make it to year five. I am thinking of an open relationship. What do you think?”

Hey Girl, There’s a guy at the gay clubs whom I think likes me. But, sometimes he says he’s “bi”, sometimes “just curious” and other times he’s “straight.” He kissed [...]

Hello Trinity, Being single is OK, but sometimes it seems so much easier to stay home than to go out just to be ignored. And, when I do date, it [...]

Dearest Trinity, After eight years, my boyfriend and I get along in every way except sexually. See, I’m not a bottom, yet 100 percent of the time he only wants [...]

Hey Trinity, My ex is mad, not because I dumped him, but because I did it on the phone. With my last breakup, I just wrote an email and that [...]

Dear Trinity, I just started doing drag, but there are so many words describing men who dress as women — like drag queens, transvestites or female impersonators — that my [...]

Hello Trinity, My roommate keeps pushing me to get dressed up when I have an interview or a date. But, shouldn’t I be liked and accepted for who I am [...]

Dear Trinity, A month ago I became friends with my ex’s new boyfriend. It was just coincidental. But, my ex has gotten really stirred up and is trying to destroy [...]

Dear Trinity, I’m a 41-year-old gay businessman who likes visiting (male) strip bars when I travel, especially in Montreal. Even though most of the guys are hard-edged, young and usually [...]

Dear Trinity, Why do gay men form close bonds with straight women, complete with flirtations. See, I really don’t think my gay friend means to be cruel, but all his [...]

Now really Trinity, Aren’t threesome relationships a guaranteed scenario for trouble, jealousy and inevitable failure? Triangular Troubles, Houston, TX Now really TT, All relationships between two people, at one time [...]