Is revenge really so wrong?
The Revenger, Daytona Beach, Fla.
You mean as in retaliation or vengeance? To steal from, destroy or put a mafia hit on someone or make someone’s life worse than death by filing an unethical public lawsuit? Well, if you’re talking about that, then, yes, revenge is wrong and why waste your time. However, sweetie, if you’re talking about over spending your ex’s credit cards, withholding sex from your spouse or completely avoiding someone who did you wrong, well, then that’s not only good revenge, that’s just good ole common sense.
I’ve been working on my art for years without success. I know dreams take time and hard work, but I’m thinking of quitting. Is it weak to give up on a dream for something more financially practical?
All Dreamed Out, Richmond, Va.
Hello All Dreamed Out,
Altering your dreams and how you go after them is for the intelligent and strong. Giving up is for everyone else. If you try and try and still nothing happens, then take some healthy time off before, yes, trying it again differently. Honey, one alternative is to dream part-time while working part-time at a financially rewarding job or on getting a trade degree like hairdressing or construction. Then, use that income as a reinvestment for your dreams. With a practical “fall back” you can “get back” to your dreams even better than before. For inspiration, study the histories of Lincoln, Edison and others (like myself) who never gave up, but just altered the dream constantly! (The cartoon shows you the many faces of those who did not give up!)
My last date complained that I needed to learn better boundaries. How pretentious is that?
Bewildered Boundaries, Indianapolis, Ind.
Whether it was pretentious or not, I can’t help but think that as society spends more time alone, on the internet or sitting effortlessly watching hours of cable, the more setting boundaries is becoming a lost art. Some people have too many and some not enough. No matter what, pumpkin, it’s always good and healthy to keep checking in with yourself, your behaviors and your good or bad boundaries.
I threw a party but everything went wrong. It was my first attempt at party throwing and it will definitely be a while until my next one. Any tips for hosting?
Party Doubts, Louisville, Ky.
Dear Party Doubts,
Not only have I written “Trinity’s Uptown Tips For Hosting A Party,” but, baby, I also wrote:
Trinity’s 11 Hats For Hosting A Party
1. The Organizer forecasts the event, hires help and invites everyone via phone, email and/or snail mail.
2. The Purchasing Agent decides what to buy, where to buy it and when to buy it, like ice, just before the party.
3. The Head Chef plans the menu and oversees the cooking, the food the presentation and the table layout.
4. The Cook just cooks (and lets the chef worry).
5. The Decorator arranges the furniture, the lighting, the candles, the decorations and makes sure it all Feng Shuis (flows).
6. The Cleaning Person makes it all shine especially the bathrooms and the common areas.
7. The DJ (disc jockey) is in charge of the most important thing…ambiance with constant pre-, during and post-event music.
8. The Server continually presents food, rearranges half empty platters and passes out hors d’oeuvres (which is a must).
9. The Host greets, takes coats, points out the bar and helps the guests meet each other (so that the host can get back to work).
10. The Tidy-upper constantly spruces up, cleans up and never worries about picking up someone’s drink (because everyone has labeled or different cups).
11. The Post-event Breakdown Person raps up and puts it all away (and never breaks a thing).
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