My lover is very controlling and would “kill me” if I suggested breaking up. I’m planning on running away when he’s gone on a business trip. Could this work?
Away I Go, Los Angeles, CA
Hello Away I Go,
Running away is not the best solution. It’s often emotionally childish and mentally devastating to both of you. Being honest is always best. With that being said, if you’re in any danger in your relationship and must run away then “run” and talk later when you’re safe. Don’t leave this column behind, but do leave a letter saying what went wrong. Keep a copy. And, darling, run smartly and strategically. Plan your escape, tell someone and take cash. Do it right the first time! Good luck.
I’m going to propose to someone. Any ideas?
Propose Stumped, Santa Fe, NM
Hey Propose Stumped,
With any proposal, always prepare yourself mentally for the worst and pray for the best. Expectation ruins everything! Now you can be romantic and simple, or you can be exciting and outrageous. It’s all up to what you think would bring the best response. Oh, and, sweetie, try not to kill yourself in the process! (My cartoon sure shows you how “daring” the whole proposition thing can be if you don’t leave yourself with a net! Just keep your balance, stay focused, keep calm and hang in there.)
I’ve been invited to a family wedding and I’m thinking of bringing someone I’m dating. I don’t want my date to get scared thinking that I’m suggesting anything long-term by introducing him to my family. It’s only been a month. Also, I’m recently out of the closet and don’t want to make anyone uncomfortable. Help!
Wedding Date, Maui, HI
Dear Wedding Date,
First…and last…do what feels right in your gay heart. Today, most people don’t really care who’s gay and at big events most people get so drunk everyone ends up gay anyway. So, pumpkin, yes, ask your date to go with you, but in a light-hearted, easygoing way. Of course, never suggesting that he or she is really the one you want your family to meet, as well as seeing if this style of wedding would work for the both of you!
I just lost my job. I thought I was doing great, but blah, blah, blah. I’ve been very depressed and need some words of wisdom, please.
Down Deep, Philadelphia, PA
Dearest Down Deep,
Successful people have one thing in common — they don’t give up, give in or get too discouraged for too long. They also constantly try new ways of bettering themselves, knowing that failure is certainly a part of success. Now, honey, don’t just listen to me, start reading what others have to say with:
Trinity’s Smart Quotes For Successful Living
1. “You will find the key to success under the alarm clock.” — Benjamin Franklin
2. “Eighty percent of success is showing up.” — Woody Allen
3. “Success is not measured by what is accomplished, but by the courage to maintain the struggle against overwhelming odds.” — Charles Lindbergh
4. “The difference between a successful person and others is not a lack of strength or knowledge, but a lack of will.” — Vincent Lombardi
5. “Success is the ability to go from failure to failure without losing your enthusiasm.” — Sir Winston Churchill
6. “Flaming enthusiasm, backed by horse sense and persistence, is the quality that most frequently makes for success.” — Dale Carnegie
7. “It is not the strongest of the species that survive, nor the most intelligent, but the one most responsive to change.” — Charles Darwin
8. “I don’t measure a man’s success by how high he climbs, but how high he bounces when he hits bottom.” — General George S. Patton
9. “Success is often the result of taking a misstep in the right direction.” — Al Bernstein
10. “If you want to be successful, shut up and keep pushing forward. Don’t waste time complaining!” — Trinity
info: With a Masters of Divinity, Reverend Trinity hosted “Spiritually Speaking,” a weekly radio drama performed globally, and is now minister of sponsor, WIG: Wild Inspirational Gatherings, wigministries.org. Learn more at telltrinity.com.