Just because everyone says you’re an addict, are you?

Tell Trinity

Dear Trinity,
My partner says I’m an addict and need help. If I drink a lot but have a good handle on my life, am I still an addict?
Addict With A Handle, Palm Springs, Calif.

Dear Addict With A Handle,
Most everyone is addicted to something. But as time passes most people can’t recognize their addictions, until someone confronts them. Now if you drink “a lot” but have a “handle” on it, then you still may be an addict “with a handle” who may or may not need help. So, put the bottle down and entertain the thoughts of your partner. Looking at your life, even if it hurts is really having a handle on it. And, honey, if your partner still persists yet you find you’re not an addict, then drink quietly, like I do.

Dear Trinity,
I’ve been part of an organized religious group for many years. It is a strong, loving community that has helped me many times. Don’t you think people who avoid religion and call themselves “spiritual” are really spirit-less?
The Right Side, Asheville, N.C.

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Dear Right Side,
I whole-heartedly…disagree! Organized religion is for organize-able people. Not everyone is willing to organize his or her beliefs. If you have found your community, then I raise my wafer and wine to you. However, baby, everyone inside and outside the pearly gates truly has their own spiritual quests and religious experiences. So, you be you and let everyone else go on his or her spiritual journeys…without you. (My cartoon shows you how I do it.)

Hey Trinity,
I’ve been dating this guy who keeps saying he loves being a bachelor and will never settle down. But, I’m the complete opposite. Should I keep dating him?
Wanting More, Albuquerque, N.M.

Hey Wanting More,
There are many benefits to being a bachelor that your date is obviously not willing to give up just yet. I’m sure you know what he’s talking about. I sure do. So, sweetie, see if you can let him be himself for a while and if four months pass and you still can’t seduce him home for longer than one night, then I give you the green light to start looking for a less liberated bachelor.

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Dearest Trinity,
You write an awful lot about “Powerdating” but when are you going to write some powerdating tips?
Power-Waiting, Columbus, Ohio

Dearest Power-Waiting,
I’ve been so busy dating that I ran out of the house, pumpkin, and forgot to leave you:

Trinity’s Easy Tips For Powerdating*
(*dating many people at once)

1. Remember powerdating is like going to school K through 12. We often want to give up or get our diploma early but we have to stick it out.
2. Think of powerdating as if you’re doing a research project for the book,“One Thousand Dates!” Not “Three Devastating Dates And I Quit!”
3. Stay educated, adventurous and keep a fun- loving mood about powerdating.
4. Remember, with any successful project there must first come complications, failures and frustrations.
5. Also remember that the reason you are powerdating is so that you can learn about dating, not practice being a neurotic slut!
6. You know how many different people you can date at one time. Don’t burn out!
7. And don’t go to the same place with different dates. It’s too dangerous. Go to private places it’s safer.
8. No one owns you after the first few dates and don’t let anyone think they do. After a few months is another story.
9. Don’t tell friends or family that you’ve found “The one” until a few months go by. The humiliation and explanation of it not working out is worth the wait.
10. Lastly, remember meeting the “right one” means dealing with many “wrong ones” first!

— With a Masters of Divinity, Reverend Trinity was host of “Spiritually Speaking,” a weekly radio drama, and now performs globally.
info: www.telltrinity.com . Trinity@telltrinity.com
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