I’ve often wondered what your answer would be if asked, “Why are some people gay and some not?”
Yours, In Question, Orlando, FL
Hey In Question,
Science sort of says, “it’s the hypothalamus.” Religion sort of says, “it’s Divine (or Undivine).” History says, “it’s been this way since the beginning of time.” And I say, it’s simply normal, healthy and imperative to have diversity. And gay folks were divinely created for the well-being and survival of population and human culture. I also think most of us are born bisexual with strong or weak tendencies toward one preference or the other. Some find one, some find the other and some find both. But, pumpkin, no matter what… Respect, Rejoice and Read as many books on sexuality as you can.
I’ve been trying for months to get the one I love to love me back. I know that I’ve found my soul mate. I send flowers, visit his work and even offer to pay off some of his debts, but still I get, “Not interested!” I’m out of things to do. Help?
Yours, Not Giving Up, Fire Island, NY
Now let me get this right. You’ve doing everything you can and still he’s “not interested!” Well guess what? He’s not interested! Let me say that again just in case you missed it the first few times, “HE’S NOT INTERESTED” which means, he’s not interested! And, sweetie, this also means… you need to move on! (Check out my cartoon for vital tips.)
I went on a first dinner date where everything went wrong, the food, the service and the way I reacted. What should I do next time?
Yours, Dining Disaster, Albuquerque, NM
Just when you think you’ve picked the perfect night, perfect restaurant and perfect menu, a full moon rises and disaster strikes. So, darling, when going on a date with someone new, at least for the first few dates go to places you’ve been to before, with guarantee good atmosphere, great food and with a waitperson you know. Save unfamiliar dining adventures for close friends and political enemies.
Better luck next time, Trinity
I recently moved to a new town, and am trying to make new friends. I’ve made a few good friends, but I keep losing them for one reason or another. Maybe I’m doing something wrong. What does it take to keep new friends?
Yours, Friendless, Flint, MI
It’s really not easy finding new friends, and I applaud you for taking on this arduous task. Making and keeping friends is mostly trial and error. So, honey, before you end up on trial for being a big error, here’s:
Trinity’s Powerful Tips for Keeping a Good Friend
1. INVITE each other to parties, openings, events and family gatherings.
2. HELP each other through troubles, traumas and triumphs. But don’t be too helpful to the point of caretaking. This can destroy a friendship.
3. LEND each other money if you like, but friends also pay that money back timely and fast.
4. NEVER steal or mistreat each other’s girlfriends, boyfriends or MAC make-up!
5. SHARE and be kind to each other’s girlfriends, boyfriends or MAC make-up.
6. Drinking, drugging, clubbing and late-night adventures are wonderful reasons to keep a good friend nearby UNLESS they’re the reason you’re doing it.
7. KEEP in contact with each other. Even when you finally get hitched, because one day you may be unhitched.
8. BEFORE saying, “I can’t deal with you anymore” because your friend takes drugs and alcohol too far… you must get them help!
9. TEACH each other to be generous, adventurous and impractical as these are the main reasons people are friends.
10. Lastly, to MAKE strong, intense and long-lasting friends there must be fighting, arguing, disagreeing and taking time away from each other as well.
With a Masters of Divinity, Reverend Trinity hosted “Spiritually Speaking,” a weekly radio drama performed globally, and is now minister of sponsor, WIG: Wild Inspirational Gatherings, wigministries.org, Gay Spirituality for the Next Generation! Learn more at telltrinity.com. Send emails to: firstname.lastname@example.org.