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Barflies, Distant Men and Losers

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A reader asks: “I met someone at the bar who says he “wants to be with me,” yet doesn’t want to do non-bar related stuff together, not even a movie. When I confront him, he compares me to his abusive ex. Is there an unhealthy issue I haven’t figured out?”

Does Selfishness Ever Go Away?

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A reader asks: “It’s been five years, and I love my girlfriend. However, she’s selfish, and as time goes on, she gets less and less eager to compromise. I’m beginning to feel like a doormat. What can I do?”

Getting back together for the second time?

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A reader asks: “I broke up with my ex about two years ago. Now he wants to get back together again, but it’s always just to see if the relationship will work this time. Should I give him another chance?”

He loves me, he love me… maybe?

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A reader asks: “There’s a guy at the [gay] club who I think likes me. But sometimes he says he’s “bi,” sometimes “just curious” and other times he’s says he’s “straight.” Yet he kissed me twice in the last four months when he was sober. What should I do?”

Is fear of rejection stopping you?

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A reader asks: “Being single is OK, but sometimes it seems so much easier to stay home than to go out just to be ignored. And when I do date, it only lasts a short while anyway. Rejection sucks, so why bother?”

Gay men, straight women, friendships and boundaries

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A readers asks: “Why do gay men form close bonds with straight women, complete with flirtations? See, I really don’t think my gay friend means to be cruel but all his snuggling and affection make me feel used. Maybe we need better boundaries?”