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A reader asks: “When I was 20 I fell in love easily. Now I’m 40, and I have trouble letting myself fall in love. Why is it so hard at 40?”

A reader asks: “Sometimes my partner just doesn’t get me. It’s so frustrating. I don’t mean to expect unreasonable things from her, but how can I get my needs met without losing my mind from having to ask for every little thing I need or want? Must I always ask?”

A reader asks: “I broke up with my ex about two years ago. Now he wants to get back together again, but it’s always just to see if the relationship will work this time. Should I give him another chance?”

A reader asks, “As an American living in Montreal I’m finding gay men not nearly as friendly here as in the States. How do I get these self-absorbed gays to talk and/or eventually date me?”

A reader asks: “My partner constantly says, ‘Communication is everything. If you ‘want’ a relationship, you have to ‘want’ to communicate!’ Really?”

I’m a gay male whose hubby moved to California a year ago for work and is soon returning. Now, he’s afraid I won’t like him because he hasn’t worked out since he left. I told him I of course still love him. But how can I prove it?

A reader asks: “I came out last year in my first lesbian relationship. Next month my girlfriend and I plan to move to another state because of her job. However, I have a three-year-old daughter whose father is active in her life. Now, if I move he wants custody. Help?”

A reader asks: “My partner often shows displeasure with me by closing off all communication for a few days with the “silent treatment.” But then I feel horrible and abused. Any help would be appreciated!”

A reader asks: “There’s a guy at the [gay] club who I think likes me. But sometimes he says he’s “bi,” sometimes “just curious” and other times he’s says he’s “straight.” Yet he kissed me twice in the last four months when he was sober. What should I do?”

A reader asks: “I went out last Friday night, met lots of guys, danced and made some great connections. This Friday, however, I couldn’t even get the “tide to take me out.” Is it me or is it just in the tides?”

A reader asks: “Being single is OK, but sometimes it seems so much easier to stay home than to go out just to be ignored. And when I do date, it only lasts a short while anyway. Rejection sucks, so why bother?”

A reader asks: “After eight years, my boyfriend and I get along in every way except sexually. See, I’m not a bottom, yet 100 percent of the time he only wants to top me. So, I’ve been “taking it” for eight years with nothing in return. Basically, I’m married to my hand. And complaining about it only makes him horny. Help!”

A reader asks: “My ex is mad, not because I dumped him, but because I did it on the phone. With my last breakup, I just wrote an email and that worked fine. Did I do something wrong?”

A reader asks: “I just started doing drag, but there are so many words describing men who dress as women — like drag queens, female impersonators and cross dressers — that my head hurts. Can you lay it out clear and simple?”

A reader asks: “My roommates keep bugging me to get dressed up when I have an interview or go on a date. But shouldn’t I be liked and accepted for who I really am, not for who I make believe I am?”

A reader asks: “A month ago, I became friends with my ex’s new boyfriend. It was just coincidental. But my ex has gotten really stirred up and is trying to destroy the friendship. His boyfriend still wants to be friends, but I’m stuck in World War Three. Help?”

A reader asks: “I’m a 41-year-old gay businessman who likes visiting (male) strip bars when I travel, especially in Montreal. Even though most of the guys are hard-edged, younger and usually bi or straight, I’m thinking of hiring one as a “paid traveling companion.” What do you think?”

A readers asks: “Why do gay men form close bonds with straight women, complete with flirtations? See, I really don’t think my gay friend means to be cruel but all his snuggling and affection make me feel used. Maybe we need better boundaries?”

A reader asks: “Aren’t threesome relationships a guaranteed scenario for trouble, jealousy and inevitable failure?”

A reader asks: “I’ve been married for seven years and do not have sex with my wife. I recently met a guy who is having the same experience. Is it wrong if we have sex with each other when both of us are not getting pleasure from our wives?”