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A reader asks: “Everything, including sex with my boyfriend, couldn’t be better with one exception, he wants me to defecate on him. Despite my refusals, he persists, but I’m afraid if I don’t satisfy his “dirty pleasures” he’ll seek it somewhere else. Help?”

A reader asks: “My niece is getting married, and I want to give her some advice. But I’ve never been married. So before she says “I do,” what should I tell her “to do” about maintaining a marriage?”

A reader asks: “My partner is getting into the “fetish scene.” Should I be scared for our relationship or myself?”

A reader asks: “Don’t you think marijuana is bad and people should stick to legal substances such as alcohol, coffee and prescription drugs? Isn’t it better for them and society? Isn’t it less dangerous and clean?”

A reader asks: “If a man sleeps with 12 different people in one year, one person a month, is he a slut? Moreover, if he sleeps with 12 different people in one month, and no one else for the rest of the year, is he also a slut? And am I a slut?”

A reader asks: “It’s been five years, and I love my boyfriend. However, as time goes on he gets more selfish and less eager to compromise. I’m beginning to feel like a doormat. Help!”

A reader asks: “After three months together, my boyfriend suddenly revealed that he’s uncomfortable with me being uncut. In fact, he has “cut” out oral sex completely. How do I keep from feeling self-conscious?”

A reader asks: “My boyfriend left me without a trace. A year later he returned with his new boyfriend. Now they want me to spend time with them. But I want some closure first. If I don’t get it, should I still see them? And how can I get over him for good?”

A reader asks: “I’ve been dating a couple of people off and on for the last few months. I’m waiting for one to work out. Dating like this has always worked for me, but some of my friends think I’m dishonest. What do you think?”

A reader asks: “My boyfriend wants to live together first before getting married. I was raised differently. Should people live together before marriage?”

A reader asks, “I’m an honest, hard working, well-rounded guy with lots to offer. But I have a terrible fear of going over and talking to someone I’m interested in. Isn’t there an easier way to play ‘the game?'”

A reader asks: “Before I go on a second date with someone I really like, I thought I’d ask what should a second date be all about?”

A reader asks: “My boyfriend doesn’t appreciate me, so I’m trying to make him jealous. Do you think this could work?”

A reader asks: “With everything that’s been going on in the Catholic Church surrounding celibacy, is celibacy really practical in today’s oversexed society?”

A reader asks: “I haven’t talked to my ex in years but just found out he’s ill. I’d like to forgive him and call but why should I forgive that f#@*wod when he was so awful to me?”

A reader asks: “Maybe it’s normal over time, but sex with my partner has gone from daily and weekly to barely once a month and we’ve only been together for two years. I don’t like the direction our sex life is going. Is once every three or four weeks normal for a gay couple (late 30s) or is there a problem and what can I do?”

A reader asks: “I know you’re going to tell me to mind my own business, but one of my friends is a stripper and is now escorting. I’m worried about him. Should I speak to his parents?”

A reader asks: “My best friends are coming to town, and I want to host a party for them. But I’m going crazy. My lover says, “Hire someone!” But I want to do it myself. Help!”

A reader asks: “For years now, I have loved your advice on “dumping” someone and/or “breaking up” with someone, but what’s the difference?”